Comments for Tales of Li'l Foot http://footnotables.com Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:10:34 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Shark teeth by Kellie http://footnotables.com/2010/03/07/shark-teeth/#comment-2353 Kellie Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:10:34 +0000 http://footnotables.com/?p=1922#comment-2353 Jerk ;) What it really was? Buying the fish at Wal-Hell. Their fish are NOT cared for; the tanks are often sick and the water is rarely, if ever, changed. Poor fishy :( Jerk ;)

What it really was? Buying the fish at Wal-Hell. Their fish are NOT cared for; the tanks are often sick and the water is rarely, if ever, changed.

Poor fishy :(

]]> Comment on Li’l Foot gets a BGB by Michelle Smiles http://footnotables.com/2010/03/04/lil-foot-gets-a-bgb/#comment-2352 Michelle Smiles Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:23:52 +0000 http://footnotables.com/?p=1913#comment-2352 I am in awe that you were able to tell that entire story without a single f-bomb. I? Would have dropped at least a half dozen. Wow. Glad it worked out finally! I am in awe that you were able to tell that entire story without a single f-bomb. I? Would have dropped at least a half dozen. Wow. Glad it worked out finally!

]]> Comment on Li’l Foot gets a BGB by Kellie http://footnotables.com/2010/03/04/lil-foot-gets-a-bgb/#comment-2350 Kellie Thu, 04 Mar 2010 15:03:10 +0000 http://footnotables.com/?p=1913#comment-2350 Reason # 320 I hate most people. SO glad it finally got straightened out. And? The Turby Twist? KILLING me! :) Reason # 320 I hate most people.

SO glad it finally got straightened out.

And? The Turby Twist? KILLING me!

:)

]]> Comment on Rockin’ out in the car… by Eduardo Guerra http://footnotables.com/2010/02/01/rockin-out-in-the-car/#comment-2347 Eduardo Guerra Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:06:48 +0000 http://lilfoot2007.wordpress.com/2010/02/01/rockin-out-in-the-car/#comment-2347 Like the design, template, post is decent, writing is excellent. I'll probably check back again.... Like the design, template, post is decent, writing is excellent. I’ll probably check back again….

]]> Comment on “Whatttttiieeeee!?!?!” by PBPDesigns http://footnotables.com/2010/02/26/whatttttiieeeee/#comment-2344 PBPDesigns Sat, 27 Feb 2010 21:50:52 +0000 http://footnotables.com/?p=1911#comment-2344 Actually, when you replied Whhhaattttiiieeeee, we knew we'd gotten your attention and you'd show up. Sometimes it came from across the house, across the neighborhood, or across a crowded store. But at least we knew you were around and listening, and coming to the call. Kinda like when Dad used to whistle for us in the store, and we would respond with the other whistle. Not the same one he used. That was how he know it was us. If someone else in the store was trying to mislead him they'd respond with the same whistle and he'd know it wasn't us, so he'd repeat his and we had to respond with the correct one. It was a family code, and a connection. One I hadn't thought about for many years until your post. Thanks for the memory. Have to go cry now. P Actually, when you replied Whhhaattttiiieeeee, we knew we’d gotten your attention and you’d show up. Sometimes it came from across the house, across the neighborhood, or across a crowded store. But at least we knew you were around and listening, and coming to the call.

Kinda like when Dad used to whistle for us in the store, and we would respond with the other whistle. Not the same one he used. That was how he know it was us. If someone else in the store was trying to mislead him they’d respond with the same whistle and he’d know it wasn’t us, so he’d repeat his and we had to respond with the correct one. It was a family code, and a connection. One I hadn’t thought about for many years until your post. Thanks for the memory. Have to go cry now.
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]]> Comment on Losing my mommy spirit… by PBPDesigns http://footnotables.com/2010/02/17/losing-my-mommy-spirit/#comment-2343 PBPDesigns Sat, 27 Feb 2010 21:45:23 +0000 http://footnotables.com/?p=1909#comment-2343 I KNOW you are not a bad mother. And you know how I know that? 'Cause we were raised by the BEST! Yes, you gave me shit for yelling at my girls when we lived at Mom's and now you see I yelled. I didn't tell you then, but I knew you'd face it, too someday. She loves you. She's testing you. Just like Thing1 and Thing2 did to me. Just like EVERY child does. And the parent that gives in is the one that loses. The child that listens and learns from the discipline is the one that comes out on top. Look at my girls now! So well adjusted that they took it in stride when I did something stupid and moved them across the country, twice! They rolled with it, and we are all ok now. Yes, I have separated us, temporarily, but that's because Thing2 always listened to Mom better than she did to me. Mom was like her second parent from the time she was born and taking her to Alabama was like removing her from her parent. Now they're making up for lost time and everyone is better for it. She loves her grandma and was not the same when we were separated. Yes, she's separated from me and her sister now, but it's not permanent and it's not all the time. And the times we spend together now are better for it. And she loves me and misses me and I love her and miss her. This time is a regrouping for all of us. They're both enjoying being 'only children' for a little while. The discipline thing, well that gets easier in time. But remember you are doing it because you love her and she'll be fine. You both will. I KNOW you are not a bad mother. And you know how I know that? ‘Cause we were raised by the BEST!

Yes, you gave me shit for yelling at my girls when we lived at Mom’s and now you see I yelled.

I didn’t tell you then, but I knew you’d face it, too someday. She loves you. She’s testing you. Just like Thing1 and Thing2 did to me. Just like EVERY child does. And the parent that gives in is the one that loses. The child that listens and learns from the discipline is the one that comes out on top. Look at my girls now! So well adjusted that they took it in stride when I did something stupid and moved them across the country, twice! They rolled with it, and we are all ok now. Yes, I have separated us, temporarily, but that’s because Thing2 always listened to Mom better than she did to me. Mom was like her second parent from the time she was born and taking her to Alabama was like removing her from her parent. Now they’re making up for lost time and everyone is better for it. She loves her grandma and was not the same when we were separated. Yes, she’s separated from me and her sister now, but it’s not permanent and it’s not all the time. And the times we spend together now are better for it. And she loves me and misses me and I love her and miss her. This time is a regrouping for all of us. They’re both enjoying being ‘only children’ for a little while.

The discipline thing, well that gets easier in time. But remember you are doing it because you love her and she’ll be fine. You both will.

]]> Comment on Losing my mommy spirit… by Michelle Smiles http://footnotables.com/2010/02/17/losing-my-mommy-spirit/#comment-2318 Michelle Smiles Sun, 21 Feb 2010 02:45:17 +0000 http://footnotables.com/?p=1909#comment-2318 I have little doubt that you are a great mom. The fact that you worry about not being a great one means you are trying hard! 3 sucks. 3 is going to be the death of me. And if I survive, I've got a second one who will be 3 in 1.5 years. GAH! I get so tired of the whining and the attitude - I really am seeing attitude I didn't think I would see until she was a teen. Every single night when I go to bed, I tell myself tomorrow I will be a better mommy. I will have more patience and I won't yell. Some days I make it until Daddy gets home and some days I don't even make it until the coffee is finished brewing. There are days that my husband comes home and sees the crazy in my eyes and whisks the girls upstairs and out of my hair before I snap. I don't want to wish away the days but I seriously can't wait for 4. I have little doubt that you are a great mom. The fact that you worry about not being a great one means you are trying hard!

3 sucks. 3 is going to be the death of me. And if I survive, I’ve got a second one who will be 3 in 1.5 years. GAH!

I get so tired of the whining and the attitude – I really am seeing attitude I didn’t think I would see until she was a teen. Every single night when I go to bed, I tell myself tomorrow I will be a better mommy. I will have more patience and I won’t yell. Some days I make it until Daddy gets home and some days I don’t even make it until the coffee is finished brewing. There are days that my husband comes home and sees the crazy in my eyes and whisks the girls upstairs and out of my hair before I snap.

I don’t want to wish away the days but I seriously can’t wait for 4.

]]> Comment on Losing my mommy spirit… by Samantha http://footnotables.com/2010/02/17/losing-my-mommy-spirit/#comment-2317 Samantha Sat, 20 Feb 2010 05:58:26 +0000 http://footnotables.com/?p=1909#comment-2317 Had same problem. There are a million parenting books for sale so I went to my child's pediatrician who suggested: Setting Limits with Your Strong-Willed Child: Eliminating Conflict by Establishing CLEAR, Firm, and Respectful Boundaries by Robert J. Mackenzie First rate & Should be in most libraries. Had same problem. There are a million parenting books for sale so I went to my child’s pediatrician who suggested: Setting Limits with Your Strong-Willed Child: Eliminating Conflict by Establishing CLEAR, Firm, and Respectful Boundaries
by Robert J. Mackenzie

First rate & Should be in most libraries.

]]> Comment on Losing my mommy spirit… by Ulli http://footnotables.com/2010/02/17/losing-my-mommy-spirit/#comment-2312 Ulli Fri, 19 Feb 2010 00:28:02 +0000 http://footnotables.com/?p=1909#comment-2312 Oh dear! Establishing rules, guideliness and boundaries for your daughter do not make you a bad mother - even if your girl tries to make you feel that way (that's why she is throwing a fit after all. Maybe if you feel guilty enough, she'll get what she wants. Smart cookie). However, the only advise I can give you is to never lose your own temper. Yelling at her, especially out of frustration, will only make the situation worse. A time out is as much for you as it is for her. I grew up with an alcoholic mother, who was incredibly abusive. My biggest fear was that I would parent like she did. I made a conscious effort to never raise a hand toward my kids, to never yell at them and to step away the minute I thought I was going to lose it. Sometimes it was really hard, I faltered once and to this day crinche at how poorly I handled that situation and that was 14 years ago. My kids had rules and there were times they didn't like me much - and that was ok cause, like someone else just told you - we are mothers, not friends. Timeouts were my best friend - so was taking away TV, desert, video games or a favorite doll. Yup, and I did send them to bed without dinner once or twice - and look, they survived. Oh, and I mastered "that look". The threat of punishment in most cases was enough to stop the behaviour. But you cannot buckle. Not once! You are in charge and in control. Similar to business, you don't need to raise your voice to be successful. I understand your fear of becoming like your dad. I carried that fear with me every day. It is a good fear to have because it will prevent us from becoming like them, from being them. You are doing a great job! Look at those pictures of your girl - how she smiles from ear to ear, how relaxed she looks, how happy - and know that you are responsible for that! That is what your parenting is doing and that is pretty awesome! Oh dear! Establishing rules, guideliness and boundaries for your daughter do not make you a bad mother – even if your girl tries to make you feel that way (that’s why she is throwing a fit after all. Maybe if you feel guilty enough, she’ll get what she wants. Smart cookie).
However, the only advise I can give you is to never lose your own temper. Yelling at her, especially out of frustration, will only make the situation worse.
A time out is as much for you as it is for her.
I grew up with an alcoholic mother, who was incredibly abusive. My biggest fear was that I would parent like she did.
I made a conscious effort to never raise a hand toward my kids, to never yell at them and to step away the minute I thought I was going to lose it. Sometimes it was really hard, I faltered once and to this day crinche at how poorly I handled that situation and that was 14 years ago.
My kids had rules and there were times they didn’t like me much – and that was ok cause, like someone else just told you – we are mothers, not friends. Timeouts were my best friend – so was taking away TV, desert, video games or a favorite doll. Yup, and I did send them to bed without dinner once or twice – and look, they survived. Oh, and I mastered “that look”. The threat of punishment in most cases was enough to stop the behaviour. But you cannot buckle. Not once! You are in charge and in control. Similar to business, you don’t need to raise your voice to be successful.
I understand your fear of becoming like your dad. I carried that fear with me every day. It is a good fear to have because it will prevent us from becoming like them, from being them.
You are doing a great job! Look at those pictures of your girl – how she smiles from ear to ear, how relaxed she looks, how happy – and know that you are responsible for that! That is what your parenting is doing and that is pretty awesome!

]]> Comment on Losing my mommy spirit… by Dawn http://footnotables.com/2010/02/17/losing-my-mommy-spirit/#comment-2311 Dawn Thu, 18 Feb 2010 17:58:01 +0000 http://footnotables.com/?p=1909#comment-2311 Oh, sweetie. I know I'm not a mom, so I don't *really* know, but I do know that she is a normal three-year-old, and three-year-olds will DRIVE A GIRL TO DRINK. God love 'em, I used to dread when they would ask me to work with the preschoolers, even for a half hour. No one tries your patience quite like a three-year-old. I can tell you this, though: You are an awesome mom. You love your girl fiercely & you want her to grow up into a fine young woman (some day far far FAR in the future) which means that these particular behaviors can't hang around forever & it's your very-not-fun job to teach her that they are unacceptable--which leaves you feeling like the perpetual bad guy. You do it out of love though and that is part of what makes you a great mom! She'll survive & so will you. Also? Ditto everything Pocklock said. (((HUGS))) Oh, sweetie. I know I’m not a mom, so I don’t *really* know, but I do know that she is a normal three-year-old, and three-year-olds will DRIVE A GIRL TO DRINK. God love ‘em, I used to dread when they would ask me to work with the preschoolers, even for a half hour. No one tries your patience quite like a three-year-old. I can tell you this, though: You are an awesome mom. You love your girl fiercely & you want her to grow up into a fine young woman (some day far far FAR in the future) which means that these particular behaviors can’t hang around forever & it’s your very-not-fun job to teach her that they are unacceptable–which leaves you feeling like the perpetual bad guy. You do it out of love though and that is part of what makes you a great mom! She’ll survive & so will you. Also? Ditto everything Pocklock said. (((HUGS)))

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